Lucifer

 So with the return of the Show Which Will Not Be Named earlier this month, I was bound and determined to find something as anti-that show as possible. Enter Lucifer.

I went into this show knowing absolutely nothing about it, but you can't get much more opposite of the so-called "wholesome, family-friendly" show-that-will-not-be-named than a show about the literal devil. All I knew was it was on Netflix, it was only 6 seasons (I had just finished two very long series: Suits and Call the Midwife, so I was looking for something a little shorter), and it looked fun.

This turned out to be such a good decision. The show is hilarious and I find myself trying to squeeze in episodes whenever I can. I love the dynamic between Lucifer and Chloe. I've laughed so hard at some of the zinger lines, and I really like Tom Ellis' acting (and singing) ability.

And as aggravating as I can sometimes find the "two steps forward, 5,000 steps back" aspect of the romantic relationship between Lucifer and Chloe, I also think it keeps the show interesting. Something that other show could really learn from. I'm on season 5, and I'm as invested in their relationship as I was when it was first hinted at during the first season.

I think one thing that keeps it fresh are the reasons why things aren't always progressing in a linear path for the detective and Lucifer. The emotional growth of Lucifer's character is slow, but believable. And the revelations of who Chloe and Lucifer are, and what they are to each other, helps to create realistic roadblocks to the relationship, even when they're based on fantastical elements.

It makes me wish that that other show would have built more interesting storylines for the characters. Find things to drive them apart and then pull them back together in a way that keeps you rooting for them. I felt like they did that fairly well in the early seasons before a certain character was killed off. But then, Lucifer also incorporates the ensemble cast in a way that makes viewers invested in several different storylines. That other show started doing that more after season 5, but by then, they'd already angered a lot of fans. The love triangle being introduced in season 6 just exacerbated a problem and then they blew it all up with the retcon last season that I still refuse to watch.

Speaking of, Lucifer has had some love triangles too. First with Dan, then Cain/Pierce, then Eve. But I feel they handled it better because Lucifer was always the end goal for Chloe and vice versa. If that other show had gone in with a clear "winner" in mind, maybe some of the fan division and in-fighting wouldn't have been so bad. Though some of the fans are honestly insane, so...maybe they would have still sent the death threats to actors and fans on the opposite team.

Anyway, I'm actually thinking once I finish this initial run through of Lucifer, I might go back and rewatch it so I can enjoy it more knowing what's going to happen. It's funny that this show I stumbled upon simply because I wanted something completely different has quickly become one of my favorite shows of all time!

So long, and thanks for all the fish-y plotlines!

 Dear WCTH writers, the first rule of writing is show, don't tell. You can tell us over and over again how "honorable" Elizabeth is, but actions speak louder than words and you aren't showing her acting very honorably.

But it seems the show is completely ignoring canon and trying to reverse the direction they chose in season 8. Congrats on jumping the shark! And Brian Bird thinks it's going to last as long as the Simpsons? 😂😂😂 I don't even watch the Simpsons and I know that's highly unlikely. Unless their goal is to emulate daytime soap operas in their entirety. Interesting choice for an allegedly "wholesome" and "Christian" show.

As an aside, I know I'm 100% in the minority here, but the hint that Abigail might return was the final nail in the coffin for me. Someone tweeted asking if people would stick with the show if she returned and I'm giving an emphatic hell no. I personally have no desire to see Lori Loughlin return to the show. For a while, I thought Minnie might be the new "matriarch" of the town, but I've read that this season her screen time was limited to a BBQ? Great choice... I wasn't sad to see Abigail go based on the way Lori behaved after the season 5 finale and due to how long it took her to acknowledge her crime. I'm not sure she learned any lesson from what she did. 

Besides, the town has moved on without her, so I don't see what good it would do to regress. Though, I suppose, that was the entire goal of season 10, wasn't it? To regress the show back to season 8 so they could revisit the triangle? There were so many creative ways they could have caused a break-up without obliterating the story they'd already told. Would fans have still been upset? Possibly, but as I said before, if they weren't straight up lying about what happened, fans might have at least respected their honesty even if they disagreed with the decision.

Anyway, I've already spent way too much time on this stupidity. So long WCTH and thanks for all the fish-y plotlines! 

Fool Me Twice...

Throughout all of season 5 of When Calls the Heart, Brian Bird continued to assure fans on social media that "Everything's Going to Be Okay" or "EGBOK" for short. And then, Jack died and we learned what we'd long suspected: that Daniel Lissing was leaving the show.

After the finale aired, confirming hearties' worst fears, I wasn't angry at Daniel Lissing for making a career decision. I wasn't even mad that they killed off Jack. Was I annoyed that it took us 5 seasons to finally see Elizabeth and Jack get married? Of course, especially since we went from a wedding to a funeral in like 5 episodes. It sucked. Nobody was happy. Hearties took to Twitter to express their anger and frustration. I remember even having a moment of schadenfreude the next season when Lori Laughlin got fired because after season 5, she called out hearties for having a "bad" reaction. She went on and on about how many people would have lost their jobs if they canceled the show after the wedding. Someone pushed back and told her to "let us grieve" and she finally shut up. But I never forgot the way she reacted to the backlash and when the story came out about the investigation into her part of the college scandal, a part of me felt vindicated because her own actions could have put the show in jeopardy. I honestly wasn't sure if the show could survive after losing two prominent characters in Jack and Abigail.

No, what angered me at the time was being lied to, for an entire season, by someone who proudly calls himself a "pot stirrer." Well, Brian, sometimes over stirring the pot causes the contents to boil over, leaving a big, burnt mess. And that's what happened after season 5. I'm not saying they should have had spoilers. I get it, the shock value of losing a major character was "good for ratings." But telling us everything was going to be okay when it clearly was not pissed me off. For someone who preaches his "Christian values", constantly on social media, I didn't expect to be so blatantly lied to.

So, it pains me to acknowledge how much my aggravation at the show is my own fault. I, once again, made the mistake to trust someone who had already lied to me once. Brian Bird not only stated the triangle was resolved, he defended the decision to go with Lucas. He didn't back down from the backlash from Team Nathan. In the face of so much vitriol for not only the characters, but the actors, the writers, the showrunner, and Brian Bird himself, he stood firm.

But now, I'm hearing interviews where the new showrunner decided to break Elizabeth and Lucas up at the end of the season and worked backwards from that action. Where the man who defended choosing Lucas as a way to tell more stories and "breathe life" into the show, is now acting like this was "always Casablanca." I'm sorry, when was Elizabeth running from Nazis? WWII hasn't even started yet in the timeline of the show and WWI is over, though you'd never know it had happened in the quiet town of Hope Valley. And if we're going with the Casablanca angle, is Daniel Lissing coming back to reprise his dead character? Because that's the only way any of these claims are plausible.

What's ironic to me is that I've seen claims from Mr. Bird that if Elizabeth and Lucas got married, they wouldn't have new stories to tell. Well, that's weird. If Jack hadn't died, would that have been the end of the story? Rosemary and Lee got married, and the story continued. Other couples have gotten married on the show and the story continued. Why is this relationship the one that would end the story?

Still, that's not even what I'm mad about. As I've said before, I was team "tell a better story" and honestly would have been just as happy if Elizabeth chose neither man at the end of season 8 and stayed single. But since we were told that she would be making a choice and ending the triangle, I was hoping for Lucas simply because I didn't want to revisit the Mountie storyline again. Even a blended family didn't feel like enough of a change to the love story we'd already seen between Elizabeth and Jack.

I'm angry because I'm being gaslit. I was married to a narcissist and I got out of that relationship because of gaslighting, among other reasons. The last thing I need is to be gaslit by a television show. WCTH is supposed to be about hope. It's supposed to be an escape. Instead, I'm feeling like I'm once again in an abusive relationship, questioning what I thought was true and watching a complete revision of history. From a television show. I suppose my one consolation is that this is a much easier "relationship" to leave, but it doesn't change the fact that the behavior is triggering.

If they wanted to kowtow to Team Nathan, then fine. It's not the direction I would have chosen, but it's not my show. They could be upfront and say they thought they made a mistake choosing Lucas and needed to course correct. I doubt I'd continue on with the show for the reasons I stated above, but I could at least respect their honesty.

But that's just it. They're not being honest. We're being told it was "always Casablanca." They're painting this revisionist history where Elizabeth never actually loved Lucas, despite all the receipts I've seen from Team Lucas demonstrating the contrary. The worst is, they literally pulled lines directly from Team Nathan in the last episode, which is making this all sound like some awful fan fiction. If I had known that WCTH was going to be a clean version of 50 Shades of Gray (which, if anyone wasn't aware, started out as fan fiction of Twilight) I would have stopped watching after season 5.

I recently saw a TL fan who is holding onto hope that this is all a ruse. Again, I haven't watched season 10, but I've read enough spoilers to have an idea of the plot/overarching storyline. This fan is hoping that Elizabeth and Lucas are playacting a break-up because of a threat to protect one or both of them. The idea is the ruse will be revealed in the finale and all will be well, but honestly, I think that's even worse. For one, jerking TN around like that is just cruel. But at this point, bringing up the triangle again at all was stupid. It's splitting the fanbase yet again and causing a lot of poor behavior on both sides. Several hearties, including ones who weren't on a team like me, are over it and walking away. Though Mr. Bird apparently says only "drips and drabs" of fans will leave the show, and for his and the actors' sake, I hope he's right.

But he also said that the teams were something the fans did, and not something WCTH cast and crew created or encouraged. That is the biggest load of horse manure I've seen from him yet. There is literally a tweet from him in the middle of season 6 on May 6th, 2019 that says "Too early for #TeamNate and #TeamLucas, #Hearties?" So, don't give me the bs that the "fans" created the teams. And let's be real, any time there is a love triangle in any form of media whether book (see Edward vs Jacob), television show (see Stefan vs Damon, Max vs Simon), or movie (see Mark Darcy vs Daniel Cleaver), there are bound to be teams rooting for each character. 

I'm not buying what he's desperately trying to sell. You can't create a monster and then, when you inevitably lose control of said monster, wave your hands and proclaim your innocence. There are literally dozens of tweets from him fanning the flames of the teams, including the one I mentioned above. I've honestly never seen a show creator be as involved in promoting the show on social media as that man, and after this experience, I can see why others stay out of it.

He's also said that fans are leaving because they didn't get their guy. That's rich since the only reason several TN fans have returned is because the script was flipped and now their guy is the choice. And while I cannot speak for the TL fans, for me, it has very little to do with not having a specific character as the love interest. Going back to the Vampire Diaries from my earlier entry, I was very much team Stefan. But I watched even when Elena started dating Damon all the way to the nonsensical ending of the series and the continuous revolving door of death (they really ruined that show). So, no, I'm not leaving because of one storyline or one character, I'm leaving because I'm not going to allow myself to be gaslit by revisionist history and the assassination of a character I've loved for 9 years.

And if I wanted to read bad fanfiction, there are plenty of places I can find that. I don't need to see it on my TV screen.

When Calls the... Shark

 If you've never heard the phrase "jumping the shark" in reference to a television show, consider yourself lucky. It started thanks to an episode of Happy Days, where the Fonz jumped a shark. It basically refers to when a show has gone completely off the rails and is no longer following a comprehensive storyline.

I will preface this by saying that I haven't watched any of Season 10 of When Calls the Heart. Initially, this was because of timing. It premiered at the end of July, which was a busy time for me and then I was on vacation for two weeks in August. But honestly, by the time I'd reached a point where I could start watching it again, the things I was seeing on social media were giving me pause. Suddenly, it was like we were back in 2021 Season 8, and the triangle had been brought back from the depths of hell.

Instead of watching my beloved show burn in real time, I watched the smoldering each week on social media. "Team Lucas" fans were very unhappy. That is likely an understatement. But I expressed to my husband my feeling that the show was going in a direction I wouldn't enjoy, and that I wanted to wait until the end of the season to see if it was even worth watching.

Based on fan reaction to tonight's episode, I'm going to say I made the right decision and that at this point, I have no intention to watch season 10. To go from giving fans an engagement to a break-up defnitely feels like the show has jumped the shark. Honestly what I think happened is that enough Team Nathan fans followed through on their promise to boycott that the show decided to backpedal to try to win them back. And in the process, they fucked everything up.

Back in 2021, I posted about the ongoing fan drama. Honestly, part of the reason I've steered clear from this season was the fan base. There's passionate, and then there's obsession, and the return of the obsession put a sour taste in my mouth. At the end of season 8, I pointed out that I wasn't ever Team Lucas in the traditional sense. I was "team tell a better story." And based on several interviews I read around that time, I thought the show runners were on the same page. Elizabeth had been with a mountie already. We'd had that epic love story, though it was cut short. I was excited to see the new direction they were going.

Now, I'm going to deviate from Team Lucas fans by saying that Season 9 wasn't really all that interesting to me, but it had nothing to do with Elizabeth's choice. Instead, it had everything to do with the rehashing of the mine disaster. The mine disaster happened before season 1. And we spent significant time on it, so when it came up again, I was more than a little over it. 

But then, there are a few things that have left me scratching my head over the years. For instance, Henry's redemption arc. I understand when Abigail left, it made it more difficult for the writers to help him find forgiveness. But when they started trying to make Henry look like the unsung hero of the mine disaster with the out-of-nowhere discovery of the mine company's response to his concerns for unsafe conditions, it felt like it was cheapening his arc. The Henry who burned evidence, harassed witnesses, threatened a good man's name, and attempted to bribe a judge is not a Henry who would have warned the mine company of unsafe conditions. I'm sorry, I just can't buy it. And I honestly preferred the idea of him finding redemption through becoming a better man, not pretending he always was a good one.

I think sometimes WCTH's tear jerker storylines help to muddle the questionable directions the show has taken. But when I've watched it from the beginning, things like Henry's storyline or Lee's sudden concern for finding a "calling" just don't add up. And now, we have another thing that doesn't add up: Lucas and Elizabeth breaking up.

Look, if the writers wanted to cotow to Team Nathan fans, they could have gotten there through more honest means. People do break up, even fan favorites in TV shows. Instead of pretending season 8 and 9 never happened, the writers could have focused on Elizabeth and Lucas growing apart. They could have written it in a way where Elizabeth's heart wasn't in it anymore not that her heart was never his. I think they could have avoided blowing up the fan base drama again.

That said, as I noted in my posts back in 2021, everything is for ratings, and I can see how blowing up the fan base again would be great for ratings, at least short term. They've certainly caught Team Nathan fans up in the frenzy, but I've seen people who weren't team anyone express how sick of the triangle they are. So, they may have done more damage than if they had just chosen Nathan in the first place.

The writers ignored their own cannon at their peril. To pretend that Elizabeth never loved Lucas is to ignore the very real feelings portrayed in season 8 and 9. Not to mention, what kind of a single mom would allow someone to get that close to their child if they didn't truly love them? It perpetuates the negative stereotypes around single mothers that exist even in our modern world. Like I said before, I understand that things sometimes don't work out, that relationships don't always last forever. But from what I've seen, that's not how this was handled, and that is why I think the show jumped the shark.

One thing that I've been feeling even before this season was that the show needed to find a natural conclusion. And I was heartened to see that a few hearties felt the same. Nothing lasts forever, and I have found that I prefer when shows end before they start to ruin things. For instance, I was a big Vampire Diaries fan up until Elena turned into a vampire, which is when the show jumped the shark in my opinion. Had the show ended before that, I might enjoy re-watching it. But I can't because, unlike WCTH, I witnessed the degradation of the quality in those last few seasons. What would have been nice is if WCTH had ended this season with a wedding and a promise of a HEA. Instead, I'll borrow a stance my husband holds about the Star Wars movies and just pretend season 10 doesn't exist.

I'd love to say that if they kept Elizabeth single instead of running into Nathan's arms, I might be willing to stick with the show. But honestly, the way this was handled has just overshadowed the good parts, and it's just not worth my time.

AirBNB is the literal worst

 Like so many other people on Reddit, I find myself fighting with this terrible company over what was supposed to be a trip of a lifetime: a week in Hawaii.

A bit of backstory: my mom always wanted to go to Hawaii. It was her dream vacation, but unfortunately, she never made it. In fact, when she found out that the cancer treatment wasn't working and she had little time left, her first words were "I want to go to Hawaii." But by then, she was too sick to make such a long trip.

My brother and sister have both been, and as an early 40th birthday present, I was finally going to go this week. In some ways, I felt like I was making the trip my mother was never able to. I'd planned this vacation for a year. I stepped out of my comfort zone and sought advice from a coworker who had visited several times. I researched places to stay, planned a vacation starting in Oahu, and then going to Maui with lots of fun excursions, mostly on Lahaina.

And then last week, the fires broke out. I was horrified for the people of Maui. The more news that comes out, the worse it gets. I just read that the fire hydrants had no water. The failures that contributed to this disaster make me angry for the Hawaiian people. So many avoidable failures. It breaks my heart. And obviously I could not, in good conscience, vacation on an island that had faced so much tragedy.

Now, I've never gone to an Airbnb before, but my siblings have and my sister especially seems to have good experiences. So, I thought we could try it. It'd be more comfortable for the three of us than a hotel room.

When I first found out about the fires, I contacted the host for the place I'd booked. He assured me his area of Maui wasn't impacted and it would be fine. I should note that this host lives in Los Angeles and was getting this information second hand. Meanwhile, the governor issued several proclamations discouraging nonessential travel to Maui. After talking it over with my husband and my brother (who we are scheduled to visit before continuing on to Hawaii), I decided to move our plans to a different island. I extended our stay on Oahu and then booked a room at a hotel on the big island.

Here's where things get fun, and I mean that sarcastically. I contacted my host, but he refused to refund us because we were beyond the partial refund date. Honestly, based on what I've since learned about Airbnb hosts, I'm not surprised. But Airbnb has an extenuating circumstances policy. Under the policy, they allow for full refund cancelations for natural disasters and for declarations of a state of emergency.

At first, they were only granting this policy to people with stays booked through August 10th, then they extended it to the 14th, then the 15th, and last I heard, the 16th. While the 15th made sense when the state of emergency was first issued, it's since been extended to August 31st. Yet Airbnb is STILL adding dates to the policy one day at a time. If they continue this trend, I might be able to get a refund tomorrow, but I'm frankly sick of contacting them.

Nowhere in this policy does it say it's subject to certain dates. A state of emergency was declared for the whole island, and there are several news articles stating that this policy applies to all of Maui, not just the areas impacted. I've seen inconsistency in the application of this policy in posts on Reddit and other sites where people with dates in September are getting full refunds, but I continue to be told my stay doesn't qualify even though it literally starts this Friday.

My plan is to give it one more shot, though I'm not sure when I'll have time. Tomorrow we leave for the first leg of our journey which isn't even in Hawaii. I have travel insurance, but this is likely not a covered event since my specific reservation was not directly impacted. But I have some other ideas for how to get refunded, including disputing the charges with my credit card. I've heard that can get you banned from Airbnb, but as I have no intention of ever using them again, I'm not sure I care.

What I do know is that I will never, ever use Airbnb again. Not just for this situation, but also because I've since learned that hosts are buying up all the housing on the islands and the locals can't afford to live there anymore. This is despicable and I wish I had done more research before booking with this company at all. From now on, I'll stick to hotels. Until Airbnb is better regulated (assuming that ever happens), I just can't support their unethical policies, or the fact that they don't even stick to their own policies anyway, whether ethical or not.

If you're considering using Airbnb, my advice is just don't. Maybe if enough people stop using them, they'll eventually go away. Their Better Business Bureau ranking says a lot about how many people, hosts and guests, hate them, so I'll hold onto hope that one day the company will disappear.

Love and Other Words

 This is the second book in a few weeks that had me fully invested in the story up until the last 25%, and then I wanted to throw it against the wall. But this one was so much worse for so many reasons.

WARNING: SPOILERS AHEAD

First, I picked up this book because a former critique partner recommended I read it. I don't know why I listened to her after she basically trashed my story because it was "triggering" for her. I've completely changed the story now to focus more on the emotional journey of the female protagonist in dealing with the loss of her mother, but the version the CP read was more of a second chance romance between two former high school sweethearts.

Why was it triggering for her? Because she's still in love with her high school boyfriend even though they're both married. And somehow they're still friends. Some of the book is loosely based off my own high school relationship, but it's not about wish fulfillment or because I'm still in love with him. I'd say it's part apology for the way our tumultuous relationship ended, and also a significant part of the MC's emotional journey in the aftermath of her mother's death.

Anyway, one of the things the CP had issue with (and that I did actually change) was that the female protagonist has a boyfriend, and several people didn't love that she was having all these emotional feelings toward her ex while still in a committed relationship. So, after she read (and trashed) my book, she recommended this one to show how the authors had handled phasing out the MC's fiancé and phasing back in the old flame.

I don't think we read the same book or, at least, I don't think we read it the same way. Let me lay out the characters and a brief synopsis before we dive in. Macy is the main character and we are in her POV through the entire novel. Her fiancé is Sean. Her ex is Elliot. She and Elliot were friends, then lovers as they were intermittent neighbors for years after Macy's father bought a vacation home right next to Elliot's only home. Something happened between them that drove them apart and caused them to not speak for 11 years. We literally don't find out what that event was until almost the very end.

Honestly, Sean, the fiancé, was a plot device to keep Macy and Elliot apart, and Macy even acknowledges that at one point in a rather meta way. To make it worse (or perhaps in the authors' mind, plausible), Sean had a daughter and that was why he had sort of kind of but not really "proposed" to Macy—because his daughter thought they should get married. But then, Sean had almost no reaction to Macy reconnecting with her old flame, and the daughter isn't even mentioned at all when the Macy inevitably moves out.

The authors gave themselves a great way to make this more of a love triangle and to pull on our heartstrings by making the daughter a bigger deal. They even had Elliot point out how maybe Macy was sticking around because she didn't want the daughter to grow up like she had, without a mother. This would have made a more compelling story and given more credence to the separation from Elliot. Macy could have fallen in love with the daughter, even if her feelings for Sean were lukewarm at best. It still could have allowed her and Elliot to do their emotional love dance, but with bigger stakes for why they couldn't be together. But that's not what happened, and as I said, Macy doesn't even seem to say goodbye to the daughter before she moves out.

So, anyway, after she breaks up with Sean, she still uses him as a buffer before finally coming clean about the break up. And honestly, this I get. Elliot literally broke up with his long time girlfriend the night after he first saw Macy again. This was a major red flag for me. It reminded me uncomfortably of Skipper and Miranda from Sex and the City. I assume Elliot didn't break up with his girlfriend in the middle of sex like Skipper did, but it just made Elliot seem unstable. And then the fact that he basically ambushes her outside of her job also made me cringe. I wouldn't want to admit I'd broken up with my fiancé either based on Elliot's past behavior.

But what really stretched believability for me was the whole "Macy's dad died and none of Elliot's family knew." People in various reviews/discussions have said that the family's only connection was the vacation home. That Macy's dad wasn't overly social (though he was at some huge black tie affair on NYE before he died, so he must have had some connections).

First, let me say that I've been through a similar situation, and it is not really that hard to find out what happened to someone. Case in point: when I was born, my family lived in a different town from the one I grew up. We were neighbors with a family of four and our families became fast friends. So much so that when we moved away, we still saw them at least annually around Christmas. I don't recall exactly when the annual visits stopped, but I imagine it was a combination of us all getting older and my parents inevitably separating.

Anyway, my mother died before social media, and really, before cell phones were prominent. But somehow, those former neighbors found out about it, and they came to the funeral. We weren't really in touch anymore aside from Christmas cards. There were no Facebook posts. But there was an obituary which, if you search my full maiden name, is still the top Google search result, 20 years later.

So, no, I don't believe that Elliot's family would have remained in the dark for 11 years. Her father died in a pretty major car accident, which probably made the news, even in some small way. And if Elliot really loved her so much and was frantic to find out what happened, why wouldn't he have Googled her before he ran into her that day? And when he did Google her after he saw her, I can't believe there wasn't some mention of her father's death in those results. I simply don't buy it. OR when Macy told him her father had died, why wouldn't he have looked that up? Why wouldn't he have wanted to know how long ago that happened, and maybe put two and two together? It doesn't make any sense.

It's also weird that Elliot thought her father didn't return to the beach house because Elliot broke Macy's heart. Of course, her father would be angry, and upset on his daughter's behalf, but seriously? That's prime real estate. If he hadn't died, I can't imagine he would have just never returned. So, this also stretches credibility. Or, at the very least, it makes Elliot seem rather immature and stupid, which is not how his character was portrayed throughout the rest of the book.

OK, so now that we got through that major issue, let's talk about some of the other major issues. The authors just kind of gloss over Elliot being sexually assaulted by a "friend." This makes me think two things: Elliot lied and used his drunkenness to cover up the incident with "I thought it was you" OR Elliot was raped and the authors didn't give it the attention it deserved. 

I will give the authors a little more leeway here because I think every person gets to define what happens to them. I know of people who refuse to say they were raped or sexually assaulted because they don't want to think of themselves as a victim. So maybe they say they were "pressured into sex" and finally "gave in," which implies it was consensual even though, to an outsider, it was clearly coerced. I don't think it's fair to judge people who do this as it is a coping mechanism.

So perhaps Elliot thinks Emma was also drunk and it was just a mistake and not an assault. It's not clear if they ever discussed it afterward or if Elliot ever confronted Emma. Plus it's weird that Emma didn't stop when Elliot allegedly called out Macy's name (though he sounded enthusiastic otherwise, so maybe she thought it was a slip?), which also gives some credence to the idea they were both drunk. Does that make it okay? Absolutely not. And I hope that Elliot did confront Emma and hashed things out, but as it wasn't addressed in the book, I'll never know.

But it does lead into my next point. Both of these people need copious amounts of therapy. To pine for someone for 11 years isn't healthy. I understand Elliot never got closure, but sometimes we don't. Sometimes people disappear from our lives without explanation and while it hurts, we aren't entitled to their time or their reasons. Had Elliot gone to therapy, he might have worked through his feelings about the whole situation (including whether or not he wanted to label it as sexual assault) and thus been able to move forward with another woman. Maybe he'd always hold a soft spot for Macy and, upon seeing her again, it reopens his heart, but I think if he had worked through everything, he might not have randomly dumped his girlfriend after a 2 second reunion.

I know it mentioned in one of the last chapters that Macy did go to therapy, but it's mentioned in passing and it's not clear for how long she went. She had three major traumatic experiences at a young age. I absolutely think she coped the best she could, but I think she would have done better with a lot of therapy.

Next, can we talk about how manipulative it felt for Elliot to say something along the lines of "you're not here, so who else am I supposed to kiss?" I'm sorry, do what now? If you have strong feelings for someone, even with the teenage hormones raging, maybe...don't go fool around with another girl? Or maybe don't tell the girl you have the strong feelings for that you did? Let's be real. Macy made it clear they were friends before she kissed him and that she wasn't comfortable moving to more because she didn't want to lose his friendship (and her fears were valid based on all that happened on NYE and the next day). So, he wasn't cheating on her with these other girls, and he didn't owe her an explanation about how it allegedly "didn't mean anything." But to basically throw it back on her as if it's somehow her fault? "You won't make out with me, but they would." 

What even is that? And then to challenge her to kiss him and then get frustrated when she realizes she moved too fast and isn't comfortable? I got irritated with Macy's two steps forward five steps back dance, but at the same time, I felt like a lot of forward movement was only after Elliot made some comment to challenge her. This girl lost her mother and has a very small social circle. It's completely understandable that she doesn't want to rock the foundation she has with Elliot even though she clearly has strong feelings for him.

And this is why part of me wonders if there was really more to the Emma/Elliot relationship than is discussed in this book. Which is why I think a lot of people buy into the whole he cheated version of the story and completely miss the assault. 

But honestly, as much as I appreciated how the authors were trying to tie the backstory into the present situation, I didn't love feeling like I was reading a YA and adult romance novel simultaneously. It may have helped if the events sort of mirrored the present or explained the present a bit more. Like, for instance, I started watching Once Upon A Time recently, and at least for the first two seasons, the writers have done an amazing job at weaving the things that happened in the Enchanted Forest with the current timeline in Storybrooke. We learn things as we need to know them to set the scene for the next reveal. That's not how this book was written.

Because I liked the first 75% of this book, I've wavered on how to rate it. I've given it three stars mainly because I hate giving books less than that, even when I don't like them. As an author myself, I understand how much goes into writing a book and I want to recognize that effort. But I hated the ending and it ruined the rest of the book for me.

ACOTAR: Feyre and her feelings

 I finished A Court of Wings and Ruin last night, and now my aggravation turns to Feyre.

SPOILERS AHEAD!

Ok, so, we've discussed my issues with Tamlin, let's talk about Feyre. In the first book, Feyre doesn't confess her feelings for Tamlin until it's too late to lift the curse. This causes her to have to undergo the trials under the mountain and solve Amarantha's riddle. She does so in her final human moments, stating that the answer is "love." The High Lords grant pieces of themselves to save her life and she goes back to the Spring Court as a newly Made fae. 

So, you would think, that after everything that happened because she refused to confess her true feelings for Tamlin, she would have learned the value in speaking from the heart. But then, in ACOMAF, she, once again, doesn't tell Rhys how she feels. They both dance around their feelings, and in Rhys case, I totally get it. He's felt the mating bond, he's fallen in love with her, but as far as he knows, she's still in love with Tamlin. And then when they go to the Summer Court, she tells Tarquin that he would "be very easy to love." Talk about a low blow to poor Rhys. She can fall in love with Spring and Summer, but his Night is unlovable. Ouch.

But she does love him. And at first, I get it, she's still torn up over what happened with Tamlin. She feels like she should feel guilty, but she doesn't. As the writer I alluded to in my last post wrote, in some ways, it's like Amarantha was right about humans and their fickle hearts. So, I understand why it takes her a while to confess those feelings.

Yet, she's handed the perfect opportunity when they're at the tavern in the attic room, and instead she tells Rhys she wants "fun, a distraction." And then has the nerve to wonder if it's possible he doesn't see the lie for what it is. At this moment, I wanted to reach through the pages and shake her. She was so hurt and so upset when Tamlin didn't listen to her, didn't acknowledge her feelings, didn't take her at her word. And now, when someone does, she wonders how he can't see the lie. I just...WTF? You cannot have your cake and eat it too, Feyre!

And then she finds out about the mating bond, and that Rhys didn't tell her. Fair. She's upset, she's angry, she's hurt. He kept something from her, just like Tamlin. I understand where her mind goes here. But when she goes to that cabin in the mountains, when she starts to miss Rhys, she doesn't reach out to him, or to Mor to come get her and bring her back. She doesn't apologize. Rhys instead comes to her and shares his whole story. And what does she do when he's done? She puts a bowl of soup in front of him after he tells her he loves her and tells him to eat. OMFG Feyre! (I know that this is representative of an acceptance of the mating bond, but she doesn't SAY anything to confirm that she accepts it).

Yes, in the next chapter, they talk, she finally says it, but only after he prompts her. Then they have sex and everything is happy. But like, her inability to voice her feelings, after everything she went through Under the Mountain, after knowing the cost of not doing so with Tamlin. It was like her character arc in the first book was tarnished, or never happened. It was like she learned nothing from that experience. And yes, I get that she was confused at first, about her feelings, about Tamlin, and still processing what happened to her. Yet, at the same time, she was clearly feeling something, and instead of examining it, instead of working through it, she ignores it. If anyone should have learned the value of voicing their feelings, it's Feyre.

If it stopped there, and she was more open with her feelings, I think I wouldn't be so irritated. But there are other instances where he says it, and she just...doesn't respond. And he even kind of calls her out on that. When he says in ACOWAR that he "dreamed" she would one day say that to him. She has said it, at least once, in ACOMAF at the cabin, but she doesn't say it very often. When they're facing the High Lords and she attacks Beron, Rhys says it into her head, twice, and she doesn't respond. 

But the moment that really gets me, is when they're repairing the cauldron at the end of ACOWAR. I know she doesn't understand that he's saying goodbye. I know that she's concentrating on fixing the cauldron, saving their world. Still, would it have taken that much effort to send back a simple "I love you, too" in that moment? After everything they faced, she couldn't just say it, through the bond, one time?

The best part is, she then harps on other people not expressing their feelings. She spent a long time in ACOWAR obsessing over Mor/Azriel and Nesta/Cassian. She calls out Mor for not being more honest with Az, and I'm just over here thinking "pot, this is kettle..." She literally invades Lucien's mind to understand his feelings for Elain. I just...for someone who struggles with voicing their feelings often, she has a lot of nerve to judge other people for it.

And then, there's the whole thing with writing Tamlin notes. I agree with the Tamlin fans that he deserved more than a short letter in ACOMAF, but I also think he deserved more than a two line note for literally saving her at the war camp when they rescued Elain and Rhys by helping to bring him back to life. I understand, again from reading reviews and spoiling* things for myself, that she and Rhys are still treating Tamlin like shit in book 4. Which...I'm curious to see why, though the reviews don't seem to imply there was much point other than to be jerks.

I'm not saying she should have gone to see him. Based on his refusal to even look at her at the meeting to determine the new world, I don't think it would have gone well. I don't trust that Tamlin would have controlled his temper. But, a longer letter, where maybe she explains some things that happened, and gives more than a blanket apology, like she did in ACOMAF during the scene with the cauldron and Hybern. And maybe he chooses not to read it. Maybe he burns it, or rips it to shred in a rage. But at least we could say that she tried. At least, we could say that she acknowledged his feelings while also voicing her own in a safe, healthy way. I would have a lot more respect for her character if she had given him the decency of an apology and a more heartfelt thank you for all he did and sacrificed for her. 

It doesn't excuse the things he did that hurt her, and I'm not even saying she should forgive him for those, though...I do think she should forgive him for herself. He doesn't need to know she forgives him, but for her well-being, her own ability to move on, forgiveness is important. There's a quote that says something like "Forgiving you doesn't mean what you did wasn't wrong. Forgiving you means that I won't let what you did hurt me anymore." Sometimes, forgiveness is more about the forgiver than the forgivee.

I'll admit, I'm not as driven to read the next two books in the series as I was to read the first three. The reviews are very mixed, and I'm not sure how I feel about reading a book about Nesta. I don't hate her, like a lot of people seem to, but...I'm just not as invested in her story, her character. I'd much rather read about Azriel or Mor or Lucien...or hell even Tamlin. Since so much of ACOWAR was Feyre telling her sister's stories, I don't really feel the need to focus on them. I'd much rather branch out into the other side characters of the inner circle and beyond.

*honestly, I never really mind spoilers because, as a writer, I'm more more interested in how the author gets to the things that are spoiled than the actual events themselves. So, reading something I spoiled is still interesting as I love seeing how the author brings the reader there.